Try not to ‘come on’ to a person that you are about to seduce because seduction is somewhat unexpected and happens in a subtle manner. You have to do it almost without doing it, meaning that you have to show your interest but still leave the ball in their court. The easiest trick is to position yourself as a serious admirer of him or her or anything that he or she fancies and then leverage that to get closer to the person of your dreams.  Make sure that you praise whatever strengths or attributes of their personality that you admire. Our society does not allow for open praise and when someone does it, as long as it sincere, everyone welcomes it.  

Be patient in seduction.  Otherwise it is a big turnoff.  In fact, this is even more important for men who do not necessarily do a great job at seduction.  They move too fast and make women frustrated with their attitude.  Remember, the way women and men look at intimacy is so different.  For a large number of men, intimacy is still about getting it over with.  For women, it is one more sweet memory and they wish to savor every moment of it. An aggressive approach may scare anyone and gives you an opportunity to back off if you see hesitation or reluctance on the part of your target.  While showing your genuine interest in a person is important, give him or her some time to decide to take the next step.  (Related article:  What do women like in men?)

Do not rush into touching, holding hands, kissing, petting, or sexual acts unless you feel that you have the most positive signals. Remember that women do not send any direct signals and indirect signals are not always easy to decipher.  Dr. Robert Jacobs, in his excellent guide for men on seduction, gives some indicators that tell you if a woman is sending positive signals.  Some of the signs are: an dinner date on a weekend, a date closer to your residence, a date in a less crowded area like a park or lake, suggestive dress on a date, late night phone calls, etc.  For women, there are only a few books but one that we found to be most comprehensive and easy-to-follow is Her Secrets.  For both sexes, however, body language is critical in understanding if he or she is a potential candidate for seduction. If the hands are placed in an inviting manner and the eyes indicate a positive disposition, you have good signs to more forward.  (Related:  Body language of a cheater)

Since most people rarely admit that they want ‘IT’, you have to lead them there by coordinating events in a manner that it sounds like a coincidence or an inevitable event rather than planned. This is particularly true when you are trying to seduce a woman.  Women simply do not appreciate direct and open discussion of private activities.  Some of the tricks are: missing the last train/bus, too much alcohol, carried away by an overflow of emotions, etc.  Take one step at a time and while you will encounter some resistance (mostly in words) but that is to reinforce what has already been described previously.  Remember you have to make the target feel that you want it rather than him or her! (Warning: Do not be dumb either – watch carefully for signs if you are actually forcing someone. Stop immediately and apologize.) Be gentle and slow and do not rush it no matter how desperate you are.