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Don't worry; just use your imagination and the ideas provided in this lesson. The
art of lovemaking is a skill that has to be learned and practiced.
Remember, PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT! Create a space where you know your senses will definitely be aroused. Lovemaking is all about our senses. There is a whole lot of seeing, touching, smelling and feeling involved. It is all about sensuality and passion.
You are probably saying to yourself. Wow! This sounds really difficult. How do I create a romantic environment?
A man's definition of a "Good Lover" is completely different to a woman's.
Most men when asked whether they are passionate or sensual lovers presume we are asking them if they are satisfying. The normal responses are, we were at it for hours or she had triple
climaxes. Always a macho response! When we find out exactly what they mean, we find out that it is more about techniques and movements.
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to make men learn to seduce)
However when we ask women we find out that it is more about the setting and the atmosphere before actually making love.
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love outdoors)
Therefore in order for us to create an environment where both of you could enjoy the pleasure of lovemaking you will need to create a space where you know that it is your own haven.
This place we call the "sacred space". The idea is to create a space in which you practice your weekly sessions, without interruptions, in a distinctly separate context from everyday concerns, and to add the dimension of ritual to the art of lovemaking. In addition, the simultaneous stimulation of the senses - through
color, sound, texture, rhythms, shapes and objects - will inspire you to bring all your enthusiasm and creativity to the art of lovemaking.
Choose the room or area that you are going to transform into your "sacred space". The ideal will be a
spare bedroom which you can paint using a warm sensuous color that arouses you. Empty out the room and start decorating it from scratch. Remember you need space so you can move around easily. So keep furniture to the minimal.
If you are thinking right now - "Oh we can't do it, we don't have the space". RELAX! You can, for example, create your
"sacred space" in your bedroom, or temporarily transform your living room (when the kids are away!).
Let your creativity run wild! Decorate your haven with fabrics, paintings, romantic picture or photographs that give it a mystical or romantic or aesthetic quality that particularly appeals to you. Cushions, candles, flowers and
massage oils create an excellent lovemaking atmosphere.
Creating this space should be great fun. Remember how, as a child, you made special places in your
parent's house, using the simplest materials, yet imparting a magical significance? That magic is still available to you. We encourage you to do the same thing now. Discover how your imagination can transform an ordinary space into something marvelous and special.
Music is an essential ingredient in creating the perfect atmosphere. Think of sounds that bring you a pleasing sense of clarity and relaxation, passion and excitement - bells, perhaps, or chimes or any music that stir your hear.
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