It was in this light that I wanted to see how much advice was out there for men from women experts on romance, dating, relationships, and intimacy.  Of course, MYNIPPON’s very own April Masini, has now become a celebrity in this field, after her book “Date out of your league” was published.  April Masini has a very sophisticated and strategic approach to dating and succeeding in life.  While it is important to have a strategy for dating, April Masini emphasizes a personality transformation that is more in line with what women expect from men.

The other expert that I admire tremendously is Tiffany Taylor, the founder of the website Guy Gets Girl.  I particularly like her style that is direct and punchy.  She says it like she sees it.  Since she writes from a very feminine perspective, you will find it a great way to see for yourself how women really think.  Trust me, we are different and as long as you appreciate that, you will be in so much less trouble.  Tiffany has done a terrific job in giving ideas and suggestions that men can not even think of, because, well, they are men, and have a hard time guessing all that goes through our heads all day. (Related article:  Should you date even if you are not ready for a relationship?)

The third woman I found to be an expert on this subject is Rachel Davis, the author of the book Conversation King:  Top Tactics for Talking to Women.  Despite the fact that we love to talk, men still have a hard time talking to us.  I have myself been in so many situations when I was being very polite and patient and guys would not structure three meaningful sentences together to keep my interest for more than few minutes.  Rachel Davis simply points out how easy it is to speak to women.  We love to talk and do not mind even listening but the communication platforms used by men and women are slightly different.  Communication is more important to us than looks or wealth.  No, you need not become a woman to connect with us; you just need to have an appreciation for how we communicate.  

A recent survey by Perfectil actually found that a woman knows what she wants when it comes to men. Almost one in three women (31 percent) know whether they fancy a man in under 30 seconds from starting a conversation and just under half (49 percent) know in less than 5 minutes. More than one in ten (12 percent) even claim to know in under 10 seconds.  In other words, a man who does not understand how women think and interpret information from the environment is bound to fail in succeeding with women.

In conclusion, let me say that advice from male experts is very helpful to most men and so is advice from friends and family members as you seek an enriching and exciting private life.  But do not ignore the power of advice from another woman.  What frustrates us the most is that men are so clueless about us.  They do things that tell us that you don't care how we think because you did not even bother to find out.  Will you ever show up at a customer without knowing what their business is?  Will you go for a job interview without knowing what the organization does and how you will create value for them?