How to find the perfect partner?

Or at least someone close enough to being perfect for you

We all dream of being with someone perfect (for us) but the reality is that the way a soulmate is only a concept, so is a perfect partner. While some of us may get really lucky and find that we have the perfect partner, most of us can only hope for someone who is as good as s/he can be for us. If you are that realistic, chances are that you will be more grounded in reality, will be willing to do the hard work that a relationship requires, and cherish what you get in the process.

So who is a perfect partner for you?

That is the most important question that you can answer. While someone like me can help you arrive at an answer, only you will know who is good for you. For instance, many of us like to believe that someone who is financially stable is good, but I know dozens of my friends who don't care about money. They would rather enjoy being with someone who is funny or kind or adventurous or an artist. We all have our ideas about life. And that is why finding the perfect partner for you is as much about finding the other person as finding you. You will have to look deep inside you to understand who you are and who else will fulfill you as a person.

How to go about tracking down your perfect man or woman?

Be patient. It will take time.

Be clear. Write down what you want and be direct and open to others about what you are looking for.

Be flexible. If you think that you will find that exact person, you won't. However, if you are willing to compromise on some things, you will succeed. After all, you can't spend your whole life searching.

Be willing to work on it. Mind you, the other person may not find you perfect. In other words, both of you will need to work on your relationship to become perfect for each other.