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Reaching
a crossroad in your relationship:
A time for decision when the partner is having an
extra-marital affair
By Reena
Sommer
| There is something about the coming of a new year that causes us to take stock of ourselves, our lives and our relationships. I guess that's what
New Year's resolutions are all about - making positive changes in various aspects of our lives. |
So as many of us contemplate what we would like to change or improve about ourselves or our situation, it makes sense that our thoughts often turn to the relationships we are in.
In taking stock of your important
intimate
relationship, you might want to think about the following questions (and not necessarily in this order):
1. Are my partner and I moving in the same direction?
2. Is the relationship growing or is it at a standstill, or worse yet, is it deteriorating?
(Related:
Retaliation affair)
3. Do my partner and I share the same values, goals and dreams as we once did?
4. Am I able to maintain some autonomy in the relationship (in other words a "sense of self") or is the relationship primarily geared toward and directed by my partner's needs?
These questions should help you sort out what is going on - or not going on - in your relationship. If nothing else, it will start you thinking...
Related:
How to start an affair?
About the author
Dr. Reena Sommer, is an internationally recognized relationship and divorce consultant, speaker and author of several relationships books including
"The Anatomy of An
Affair".
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