As the jet lag veered off, she felt more at home and seemed to relax. Today, she went to a musical and I met her at the station on her return. She was nervously but very happily animated and said what a wonderful day it had been, especially our long lunch. At home, she stood at her bedroom door to say goodnight to me again. On impulse, I kissed her quickly on the lips. She met mine then jumped back with a giggle. I just don't know. Sometimes with the Japanese women I've known the nervous giggle has been one of delight but at other times it's been more like shock, horror! I'll just have to see how she is tomorrow but she certainly is very attractive to be with. Once again, with these wonderful Japanese ladies, it's so difficult to tell how unwitting or otherwise they are with their seemingly flirtatious manner.

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This morning she entered the kitchen for breakfast wearing a figure-enhancing light orange sweater which nicely complemented her orange-streaked black hair, blue tailored jeans and, for the very first time here, full make-up. The orange sweater - it shows off her attractive body very well. The light and shade plays with them to pleasing effect. The fabric stretches around the mounds as she moves. She is tall for a Japanese and her figure is slim but not thin, and with full curves. I touched her once and was quite shocked by the extreme excitement of the feel of her waist under the fabric; I can't remember the last time a woman felt so good to touch.

She was alert and friendly so later in the morning I broached the delicate subject of my stolen kiss. "No, it's ok. I was surprised but I understand. It's no problem", she said. Later still, she commented, "When I want to be close to someone, I like to talk about my secrets, my feelings." "Like you did at the wine-bar?" "Yes, like I told to you." We had lunch by the river.  "We had a challenging and stimulating discussion last night, didn't we?" I started off by asking her as we sat down. "Yes." "It's like one of the kind of conversations you had with your boss who is now your boyfriend?" "Yes." "Your English was fluent and you communicated your ideas so well. I enjoyed our conversation so much." "Yes, yes, so did I."

She was starting to open up and was treating me like a man, not just her English teacher. Later on during the day, she asked me, "You worry I am a quiet person?" "No, I respect your feelings and privacy." "I'm happy but after three to four days from Japan I am still tired." "Sometimes it's really good to sit with a friend and not have to talk", she said as if this was the greatest source of pleasure to her. "Yes, yes, it's good", I managed to say, though I was surprised by her comment. "When we went to the countryside today, a man and woman were in the grass just laying down." "I remember." "I want to lie down like that with you", she proposed. "OK. They were close." I was surprised and my heart stopped beating for a second. Why with me? Her boyfriend is going to join her soon. "No, no not so close with you. This distance." She used her hands to show that the distance was about three feet. "So, we won't talk, just lie there?" "Yes. Is it ok?" "Of course. I would like to lie with you, not talking. I hope we can relax and be comfortable, not talking." "Yes, yes. This is what I want." "We will do it!" I promised.

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Depends how receptive she is today. Common problem with my Japanese students; they don't say why, but sometimes they are friendly to the point of being desirable then, next day, it's like we are almost strangers

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More interesting was when a 26-year old Japanese student of mine was brought off by a 78-year-old friend of mine. Now that was unusual, I thought. I asked her about it and she said, "I don't care about age." I videoed part of the seduction then left them to it when it started to get really hot - that  isn't my thing. Another friend, just 52 years old tried it with her on and she got quite upset and complained to me about it. So, she was particular which old guy had a go at her. But then, my old friend, weird and eccentric as he is, has a wonderful way with young women. I watch and learn from him! This geriatric-loving student was the same girl who asked me to be her first lover.

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My current Japanese lady has withdrawn into her shell. She's happy and comfortable but the intimacy we shared a few days ago has evaporated. Tomorrow we are trying to get into a top league soccer match. If we can't, then she wants to go to a nearby pub to watch the match on a wide screen TV with other fans. I told her that it's an English tradition to drink lots of strong British ale, shout a lot and generally let go. She says she's quite amenable to the idea but I'll wait and see.

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I am engaged in a series of emails with a hospitalized 29-year old Japanese woman. I find the literary style and the frankness of her accounts of hers and the experiences of the women in her family stunning! She told me about her rape at sixteen and subsequent abortion without her parent's knowledge, about her abusive and philandering husband who maintained he was just acting normally, but then decided against it. I think there is another book waiting to be written but not aimed at the prurient interest of men who just want to be with a Japanese. My own interest has gone beyond seduction now that I'm getting to know this lady. I can get it when I need it, Japanese or otherwise, but she has greatly increased my interest in the plight of so many Japanese women and their hidden stories and so my purely physical interest in them is now secondary.   (Related:  How to get a divorce from abusive husband?)

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