Having said that, I still think that being an attractive woman, if not necessarily hot, is a plus in most cases. Several studies show that not only in the area of relationships, but women with good looks (even men for that matter) have an edge in almost all other areas of life, for example, professional advancement, being able to do business deals, and even getting better tables in a restaurant. 

Being able to convert an 'average' persona to a 'attractive' persona is only a matter of change in attitude and style. In fact, I encourage my clients to have a dual persona: a professional persona for professional and social settings while a hot persona for romantic settings. 

Being attractive!

Believe it or not, this is relatively easy. In my opinion, it is simply having a few attributes in your persona that attract someone's attention. Now some women are simply blessed with natural beauty and will draw attention no matter what. For instance, you might have nice flowing hair or beautiful eyes or pouty lips or shapely body - anything that other people notice because it looks good on you. 

Other women just take the right steps to make them look better. It is always easy for anyone to dress in a trendy style (and remember that it does not necessarily mean expensive) but the really clever women take what is not so attractive but can be turned into something really attractive by emphasizing it. For instance, even average lips can be made to look great with the right makeup.  They can simply match and mix outfits to look as if they shop every day.

The third approach is showing a great attitude. Remember, more than anything else, we all like to 'feel good'. Thus, if anyone around us can create that feeling, it does not matter how physically fit she is or not. What I mean here is that women who are extremely cheerful, pleasant, sweet, funny, attentive, interesting, or charming will be considered desirable by almost anyone. As Sarah Paul, the author of the guide for women called "How to be irresistible to men" writes, "Being irresistible to men is simply changing your behavior in ways that men will like everything about you. By merely learning how to dress, look feminine, and flirting the right way, you will have men drooling over you."

So how do you get the attitude? As  April Masini, always advises, "Fake it!" With time you will get better at it and it will come to you as second nature. In fact you will be able to completely transform your personality over time. Men also like hot women that give them a challenge. Someone who is constantly challenging them in a teasing manner - so she still maintains that man-woman relationship balance but gives just the right amount of stimulant to a man to make him want her by beating her at her own game. Finally, keep an open mind. Be adventurous. If you close your mind and have too many hang-ups, you will be considered boring, dull, and frigid. You do not have to necessarily do anything that you do not like to do or compromise your values in any way, but as long as you are ready to talk about anything in a frank manner, men will appreciate your attitude and even respect it.