Nothing sends across the message "I'm attracted to you" stronger than when a woman touches you repeatedly during conversation.  It is the oldest and most powerful flirting technique that the world has ever seen. It makes you immediately warm up to her, get a very good feeling about her, and raises your interest in her significantly.  Doesn't it?   But why does it have this effect on you? How can you go from being slightly interested in a woman to being just shy of infatuated with her after a series of light touches and rubs? (Related:  How to flirt with a colleague?)

You see, our minds are naturally programmed to respond to human touch in a positive way, which makes it a huge influence on who we are attracted to even more so than what we see, hear, or smell. That means that by simply touching a woman correctly you can make her more attracted to you than you could ever do with your looks, your words, and your cologne... combined!  Because of the structure of today’s society, many of us are not as accustomed to touching as we should be, so much so that when someone we do not now very well DOES touch us, it comes as a surprise – a surprise that we won't soon forget.  

Can you remember when a woman you had recently met was flirting with you by touch? I'm sure you can.  She made a lasting impression on you; did she not? Just the fact that you still remember this woman demonstrates just how powerful touching can really be!  Now wouldn't you like to be able to have that same effect on the woman that you desire? The ability to make a first impression on her that is so strong that she will never forget about you? Damn right you would!

Here are a few tips on how to touch someone to create the desired effect without offending:  

1. Watch for other body and verbal gestures that indicate that she is interested in you.  If someone is trying to run away from you, is not comfortable with you being around, is ignoring you or is giving any other signals of lack of interest in you – touch is the last thing you want to do.  Instead, either move on or try other ways to charm her.
2. Keep the touch as non-threatening as possible.  For instance a light touch on the arm or the shoulder is the maximum that you should try the first time.  If you are walking, you might hold her hand or put your arm around her for a fraction of a second, when for example, she does not see a coming car or there is something nasty on the road and is she is about to step on it.
3. Watch carefully for a reaction.  If you receive a negative response to touch to indicate that she did not appreciate it, do not touch again.  Also, if you receive a positive response, it does not mean that you are now free to grope her whole body.  In fact you should simply stay away from touching her again, except maybe another casual touch after some time has lapsed.  You will, thus, build a relationship based on trust and you will hopefully get a chance to see her again, when your relationship will reach to the next level.
4. In almost all cases, it is safer to let the woman control the level of touching.  Let her make the first move in all cases and you will then develop a stronger bond.  

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