• First, appreciate and accept yourself. Are you black, white, red or green? You are beautiful in that color. Remember variety makes the world such a beautiful place.
• Have a good look at yourself in the mirror. What are you best features? What do you like about your body? What do you dislike and why?
• If you change that part about yourself that you don’t like, will it enhance your life? If so, how? Are there any side effects in the long run?
• How do you define beauty? Are you mature enough to understand what that word means? What would you consider to be beautiful?
• What does the word ugly mean to you? What would you call ugly?
• Appreciate others and the things around you.
• Keep a smile and do laugh. Sadness kills your inner soul.
• Being alone is not the end of the world.
• Never own people like material things. 

My point is not about hygiene, being tidy, etc. but about appreciating the real person in you. Because many have misunderstood this and wrecked their lives. When you are lonely or rejected, it’s not necessarily time for self-pity or self-condemnation and start to build a wall and a shell to live in forever. But it’s a time when you should look so much closer into your life, time to breathe, reorganize your life, and know yourself, appreciate yourself, and just learn and discover life.  (Related: Self esteem for girls)

Here are two inspirational stories worth listening too:

I have a friend who at school was considered too dark and ugly. She was a cripple and used crutches. The girls mocked her a lot but it didn’t seem to bother her. They would say you will never meet a man or get married. To be honest she was beautiful in her own way. She was intelligent in school and was warm hearted. To cut the story short, today she has a university degree in Economics, happily married to a British (white) man who is apparently handsome and they have two healthy children. You can say very little or nothing about her mockers today.

I have another friend whose sister was mentally retarded. They assumed that she had no future and would have to live with one of the family members for the rest of her life. In other words, it was a responsibility that none of the family members were really looking forward to. How much fun can it be to have to take care of a person (with the brain of a child, totally uneducated and essentially good-for-nothing person using a conventional definition)? Well, that was not what life had in store for her. A family friend knew of a young man who was a gentleman but due to a unique personal situation (that is another long story) he could not find a woman to marry. And he wanted to marry this woman knowing fully well what he was getting into. 20 years later, my friends tell me, they are a happily married couple, have two perfectly normal healthy daughters who are doing well in school.