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When
a mature woman loves a younger man...
Mature
women
are increasingly ready to date and marry younger man and society better accept
it!
By Pierre Coda
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are discussing situations in which a mature woman falls in
love with a younger man. We have already discussed mature
women dating younger men is a trend now. In this
part we are focusing on what it means to be attracted to
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Attraction to someone younger than you
The high divorce rate in the US is causing several demographic imbalances. Not only one out of two marriages fails, Dr.
Neil Clark Warren, the founder eHarmony writes that when couples marry young,
the divorce rate is high, and if they marry very young, that is below
20, the divorce rate is 80% to 85%. The problem is even more serious among African-Americans where unemployment, teenage pregnancy, single
parenthood, children being born out of wedlock, etc. have created some really sad scenarios for people
seeking a decent person to
date/marry. No wonder, our choices are somewhat limited
these days and when we do like someone, there always seems to be
something not perfect, which in this case, is the huge age difference.
While this trend is becoming increasingly widespread, in this specific situation, it is clear that it was simply two wonderful people falling in love. We all know that human beings mature at very different speeds and that is why Nancy finds that she has no problem in connecting emotionally with someone who is 15 years younger than her because he is as mature as
her. (Related:
How to
seduce a younger man)
In my opinion, as long as Nancy and her boyfriend feel that they are made for each other, there is no reason to hide from society. This relationship should not end simply because our society is not yet ready for
a mature woman dating/marrying a
younger
man. Men have done this for a long time and it is only a matter of time before women will do the same. I encourage Nancy to speak to her boyfriend and let him introduce her to his parents. Yes, some people will be surprised and
even shocked but what is really important is that two people love each other. I would add a word of caution here, though.
As Dr. Neil Clark Warren pointed out, a marriage in which either one or both partners is younger than 25, the chances of a divorce are high. Accordingly, Nancy should wait till her boyfriend is at least 25 to give him enough time to decide even though considering that she is already 35 she might want to marry
him as soon as she can.
A word of advice to all the men out there who are attracted to
mature women. What I believe and have seen through my research is that great relationships are not based on being of same age. There are other
far more important things that result in a good relationship: compatibility, background, upbringing, ambitions, interests, shared
vision, and likes/dislikes. Age is only a secondary issue. It is important in the sense that a certain age means a certain level of experience of life. But that is not always true. For example, a 19-year old who spends a year on the battlefield
has learned a great deal
more about life than a man who who sits behind a computer day in and day out doing the same monotonous task for 20 years. More age, more experience, but you will notice the huge gap in perspective. Therefore, my recommendation to these men is that
they look at the big picture and decide accordingly. You do not want to abandon a wonderful woman simply because she is
more mature than you - it is not easy to find a good person these days. Yes, your parents might object, guys in the locker room might tease you, but what counts is if you are happy. Then it is
definitely worth it. (Related article: Challenges
of dating mature women)
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