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Meet a woman in a bar

How to turn the encounter into a real relationship?

Jonathan went to a bar just to have a few drinks but there were surprises for him. He actually met an interesting woman that he had a great conversation with. "Two days later I get a message from Tracy and she was giving me her number (how often does that happen that a woman actually gives her number to you?).  I wasn't really sure how she got it, most likely through the bartender, who knows me well. We went on a date to this club and I did not think things were going that great. But still, the next thing I know we are in the car kissing, talking, etc. We were also talking about getting kinda serious. So now it's been almost a week and we kind of came to an agreement that we need to try to slow things down. We barely knew each other. So we meet up and talked for about 7 hours. She said that she has to get herself straightened out before she can get into anything serious. I agreed completely and let her know that I will help and support her 100%. She now considers me her best friend. So it went from whoa to slow, but I want the whoa back. We are going out of town together in a couple of days, and I am not sure what to expect, so I'm getting kinda nervous. I think she's the best. And I really want to be with her. What should I do?.
Over the years, I have learned that bars aren't exactly the best places to meet good women these days (try online dating) - you know the ones you want to marry or have a serious relationship with. I am generally skeptical of women who kiss guys in parking lots, give out their number, and then decide to take a trip with a guy they hardly know. Party girls like that (think polyamorous Lindsay Lohan), more often than not, fall in and out of love pretty quickly.
Photo of a woman drinking at a bar.Having said that, life is full of surprises and people find love in all sorts of unexpected places. My hypothesis is that Tracy went to the bar to "party" -  nothing serious, just plain fun. And contrary to her expectation, she found someone who was not only fun but also someone she could imagine having a steady relationship with.

So, you have to ask yourself, what do you really want? In case, you just want to have a casual relationship, she could be your dream girl. In case, you are looking for a serious relationship and feel that she may be the woman, then go for it.

A lot of people will tell you to to slow down or avoid doing certain things or get to know the woman before you get into bed with her - and stuff like that. However, my personal advice to you when you are with her is to just go with the flow. And since you will spend a lot of time with her, inevitably you will get to know her better. Also make sure that you guys talk - so ask questions and get to know her as a person.
And listen to me: during this trip do not commit to anything. Do not promise everlasting love or whatever even if that is how you feel. If you reach a point that she is looking for an answer, tell her that you need to think things over since everything has happened so fast any way.  I am positive that she will understand because she too has asked for time in fixing her life.  It will be a very important decision for the two of you and the best thing to do is to look at the relationship from all angles and then take the next step.

After a week or so of thinking it through and if your heart tells you that she is the ONE, go for it.  While I will continue to say that most good relationships are found through a deliberate, slow, and well thought-out process of dating and mating, you never know how and when you will find your partner.

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