Relationships
between
Japanese men and black women are extremely rare and
based on the emails that we have received the relationships
are limited to a few short-term,
casual relationships (we have made no effort to compile
statistics). Relationships between
Japanese
women and black men are somewhat more common (Kimora
Lee Simmons is a daughter of such a couple).
Eileen is
trying to see if she can enter this really tiny club. "I am
a sophomore in college, and fairly knowledgeable and
open-minded about the world, which gives me even greater
possibilities about
dating (check out our
free dating website). Ever since I was a little girl,
I had been
fascinated with Asians, and their cultures. The
one that intrigued me the most was the
Japanese. Because I
believe that you should study what you were interested in,
and make it work for you, I became a Japanese major straight
away. That is why I also joined the Japanese student
association at my college. There I met this
shy Japanese man
and I really like him. After knowing that the
Japanese
men can
be
shy, and sometimes feelings can be misinterpreted
greatly, I am wondering what I should do. I am actually
pretty chicken, and let's just say I'm an expert when it
comes to being
rejected. I'm not all that pretty, by
American standards, and I find that I have a unique
situation in my area at least. I was wondering if you could
help me at all. A lot of the time, people
love others just
for looks, but I'm one of those few who like people for
things much deeper," she writes.
How to go about this?
I know it is
going to be hard
but it doesn't hurt to try. More and more African Americans
now live/work/travel to Japan and many
younger Japanese now
know that not all Americans are Caucasians. They see in
movies and on television that what they might consider
"Asian" or "African" (from appearance) are
people who actually are as
American as an apple pie.
It seems
to me that you haven't even
made the first move yet. I would
strongly suggest that you at least try to get closer to him.
Find an opportunity to work with him on an activity
together, invite him to a party that may be going on
somewhere at the campus, ask him to recommend a book or a
Japanese movie or
restaurant so that you have a chance to
follow up on things (who knows he might even suggest that
you watch the movie with him or check out the restaurant
together). This will give you a good idea if he is warming
up to you or not and if he realizes that you are interested
in something more than just reading books about Japan.
If you
see him comfortable in
exploring a relationship, go ahead
and give it a try. If not, improve your understanding of the
culture and language, and find a way to
go to Japan - your
prospects will be much brighter there. |
