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Can you ask a man to commit?
It is much better if he does it on his own
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She says, "For
Valentines Day I thought it would be nice for us to get
together and spend some quality time. I even thought that he
might
make a stronger commitment to me. After showing his
reluctance to even
go
on a date with me, I gave up, but at the last minute he
showed up at my place. We had a pleasant evening as we both do
like each other. We talked for hours about family,
personality, our zodiac signs, etc. He confided he
told his friends that he finds me
sweet.
I asked him
Does he think he takes care of my needs, and he said no,
and not like he would like to. When he asked me if I was happy
he came, I told him, yes, but I think my frustration with his
cavalier attitude showed. He also noticed it. Do you think I
am wasting my time with this man? Will I ever be able to have
a
real relationship with this man?" |
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You know I always
get a bad feeling when a woman has to ask a guy to spend time
with her - it simply means that the guy is not serious about
the relationship. And I think that is where you are right now.
It seems he came not because he was looking forward to it and
thought it would be romantic to spend time with you - he came
because he thought he owed it to you. (Related:
Friend with benefits)
From now
on, I will suggest that you don't reach out to him and wait
for him to proactively pursue you - if he does, then be polite
and see where the relationship goes. If he does not contact
you frequently enough and comes up with excuses about his time
constraints, well, it might have been a
casual relationship for him. Don't lose sleep over that.
It is
time for you to move on too. When you force a man to
commit against his will, he might do so, but such
relationships often
end up in divorce and
breakup. |
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