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Tricks
to seducing women
Never
be totally direct when it comes to seduction
By Sebastian
Steele
I
once told a girl that I was dating to come over to my
place and hang out. She said, so what do you want to do
today? I told her that I wanted her to come over and
have some sex with her, and then we’d go out and do something fun. I
couldn’t understand at the time why she got upset with
me, and subsequently didn’t want to come over anymore
after that. Luckily,
we’re still friends and I asked her about this months
later. I was shocked at what she told me.
She said that she DID want to come over and have
fun, but that I “cheapened” it by talking about it
directly. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing!
“How could telling you honestly and truthfully that I
want to be intimate with you cheapen the act of doing
it?” I asked (quite angrily at that point).
She went on to explain that when you want a girl
to come over, and you know that intimacy is going to
happen,
it’s better to speak in implication, and refer to it
indirectly. “Well how do I do THAT, and WHY should I
have to?” I asked… still upset, but very
curious to discover the answer.
She
understood my frustration, but reassured me that most
women are like this. She told me that if I want a girl
to come over and be intimate, that it’s a LOT better to
tell her that I’ve been thinking about her, and that I
miss her, and how I would love nothing more for her to
come over and spend time with me. “Well that sounds
like the same thing! I mean, she KNOWS damn well that if
she comes over to spend time, we’re going to end up
having it. She KNOWS that, so why do I have to beat
around the bush and avoid mentioning it directly???”
 I
was so confused, but also excited because her words did
ring true for me. I realized then that I had been going
about things all wrong when I invited girls to come over
to my place. I realized that I made them feel cheap by
directly referring to our time together as a time for us
to just to be intimate. But if I simply told them that I
wanted them to come over and just be with me, and tell
them that I miss them… it would make them feel okay
about it (even though they knew that it was inevitable
and they might very well be the one to initiate it).
So
remember, never indicate directly that you want her to
come over for it. The lovemaking
part is already ASSUMED, and
therefore you don’t ever have to bring it up.
But
when IS it okay to talk about it? Honestly, in my
experience… if you want to talk about it directly
with a woman, wait until you’ve been with them a few
times in bed. At that point, they are comfortable enough
with you to talk openly about such things, and they
won’t feel like that’s ALL you want them for.
Also,
another great time to talk about it is right AFTER. Let
me explain. You and her just finished getting it on, and
now you’re lying there with her in your arms (if you
are the kind of guy who just rolls over after it, you
might want to rethink your strategy, because women
really get offended by that too).
At
that point, it’s a great opportunity to
tell her what
a great lover she is, and what specifically you like the
most about her style of intimacy. Don’t just make
stuff
up either. If you can’t think of something that you
can compliment her on, then it’s time to switch
partners… or start paying closer attention and get to
know the person you’re with a little better.
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