Myth #1: Japanese women are shy

When I met Rumiko through an online ad, I found her to be very conservative, professional, and proper – everything one would think a professional salaried woman working in Tokyo would espouse. However, when it came to making the first move, Rumiko surprised me. She took out her business card, presented it to me, and said rather forcefully, “Call me”. Intrigued, I e-mailed her and she immediately invited me out to dinner with her and a friend. At dinner she presented me with a small gift. I later found out that this was her first sign of affection for me.  

A few days afterwards, I e-mailed her again and she ended up asking me if I wanted to skip town for a day during the weekend to sightsee. I said yes and she made arrangements. That day out, sitting on the floor, while drinking tea, she made her first physical move. I noticed that she ever so slightly moved one of her cute little feet towards my hand so that they touched ever so slightly.  

A few days later I e-mailed her again and asked her if she wanted to get out of town again for a day the following weekend. Not only did she say yes, she told me she was looking forward to getting in to a co-ed public bath with me! That day, although we never did make it to the public bath, she had no hesitation taking my hand (for the day!), whispering sweet-nothings in my ear, holding me, resting her head on my shoulder, and touching my legs. Another sign of affection: another gift.

A week later she called and said she wanted to spend the day together. Again, we spent the day hand-in-hand. A week later she made the ultimate move: she called and asked if she could come over and spend the night with me.

Myth #2: Japanese women are submissive

There is a stereotype of Asian women as being submissive. Without defining the word, I can only counter that. Indeed if this is the case, then it is only relative to western women. I didn’t know what to expect when Rumiko came over to my place, but I thought that I would be the one leading and commencing proceedings. However, as I was about to, Rumiko excused herself. She went to the restroom to wash up and change. It’s the first time that a woman that I’ve been with and has been at my place has changed prior to coming to bed. She clearly wanted to get into something she was comfortable in and wanted to be in control of the initial dress down.

Myth #3: Japanese women have bad teeth

While, yes, from a dental perspective, many Japanese women leave a little something to be desired in their teeth and mouths; they certainly do make up for it in bed. From the moment my lips met hers, I was amazed at her ability to kiss. The expert-like use of her tongue had me spinning. And when she brought that expertise down for oral adventure, she again worked wonders. The partnered use of her lips, tongue and teeth certainly lead to one very long and pleasurable night! (Related:  How to get perfect teeth)

Myth #4: Japanese women are flat-chested

Again, technically, yes, most women in Japan are relatively small, but it’s what they can do with what is there that counts. First off, Rumiko, knew how to wear her bra so as to exaggerate her cleavage and cup size. Secondly, she knew how to position herself so as to make them look more full: usually sitting up, leaning over me.  

Myth #5: Japanese women are always orderly pragmatists

Once in bed, Rumiko lost the pragmatism that I had come to expect of all Japanese – at all times. She lost all inhibitions to any excuse – and I mean any and all! She went from the professional conservative to giggling and crazy.  

Myth #5B: Japanese women have nothing up their sleeves

I awoke at one point that night to find a gorgeous, smiling Rumiko riding me, again without having placed protection. I simply enjoyed. During that little wake-up surprise, Rumiko told me that she had my answer. My quizzical look revealed from her that I had asked her age days back. She told me that she was 30. That coupled with the fact of being with a woman more than 5 years older than me, yet one who looked years younger, turned me on and soon followed!

Myth #6: Japanese women are innocent

We all know that looks are deceiving and that certainly holds true in Japan. The most conservative women can turn out to be some of the wildest, and vice versa. Despite Rumiko’s conservative nature, our wild night notwithstanding, I have found it so very easy to keep in touch with her, despite having left Japan. She is open to my sending her fantasies and many a time, she responds in kind!

While its unlikely I’ll see Rumiko again and despite the fact that we were together for a rather short time, she certainly has left an impact on me. I learned a lot and she is one very strong memory that keeps Japan fresh in my mind.

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