How to get a Japanese girlfriend?
This is still the most popular question that I am asked though in recent months I have seen a surge in questions related to Indian women as many Americans travel to India and want to find out how to date an Indian woman.
Getting back to Japanese women (Related article: Tips and ideas on dating a Japanese), there are many theories out there and one of them definitely works for most men. Rather than discussing all of them here, I have been told many times and I have experienced this myself when I lived in Japan that Japanese women are definitely intrigued by a gaijin (or foreigner). Sometimes, just not being a Japanese can be a good way to start a relationship.
Yesterday, however, I heard from Hugo, a Japanese-Canadian. He says, "I don't think most Japanese women have a "preference" for gaijin - which is erroneously considered to be a term related to white people (it fits for ALL foreigners, not just those with pasty white skin). It is their fascination for English-speaking individuals (or at least, that is my perception). When I was studying Japanese (mind you, I am an Asian-Canadian, of Japanese descent), Japanese women were interested in me as I spoke English, but looked Japanese (I guess a Nihonjin that spoke like a gaijin, who could teach them colloquial English, the best of both worlds, someone they could take home to their parents and not make anyone lose face because she brought home a HAKU-JIN!!!! Anyway, I'm now married to a "gaijin" from the United States but that is because of the community that I was brought up in. I related more to the white-society than Asian being the only Asian in a school that was 2150 students large, population wise. Ultimately a relationship with a woman all depends on how you act. If you have confidence in yourself, women, no matter what the race, will see that and be attracted to you. Women appreciate someone with self-confidence, tact, and the ability to treat her as a human being, not as a possession."
I think you can disagree with some of the things that Hugo is talking about but what you can not argue with are the attributes that he talks about that any man needs to succeed with women: self-confidence, tact, and respect for women. Keep these three things in mind and there is no reason why you should not succeed with women.
Recommended article: Experiences with a Japanese girlfriend
Getting back to Japanese women (Related article: Tips and ideas on dating a Japanese), there are many theories out there and one of them definitely works for most men. Rather than discussing all of them here, I have been told many times and I have experienced this myself when I lived in Japan that Japanese women are definitely intrigued by a gaijin (or foreigner). Sometimes, just not being a Japanese can be a good way to start a relationship.
Yesterday, however, I heard from Hugo, a Japanese-Canadian. He says, "I don't think most Japanese women have a "preference" for gaijin - which is erroneously considered to be a term related to white people (it fits for ALL foreigners, not just those with pasty white skin). It is their fascination for English-speaking individuals (or at least, that is my perception). When I was studying Japanese (mind you, I am an Asian-Canadian, of Japanese descent), Japanese women were interested in me as I spoke English, but looked Japanese (I guess a Nihonjin that spoke like a gaijin, who could teach them colloquial English, the best of both worlds, someone they could take home to their parents and not make anyone lose face because she brought home a HAKU-JIN!!!! Anyway, I'm now married to a "gaijin" from the United States but that is because of the community that I was brought up in. I related more to the white-society than Asian being the only Asian in a school that was 2150 students large, population wise. Ultimately a relationship with a woman all depends on how you act. If you have confidence in yourself, women, no matter what the race, will see that and be attracted to you. Women appreciate someone with self-confidence, tact, and the ability to treat her as a human being, not as a possession."
I think you can disagree with some of the things that Hugo is talking about but what you can not argue with are the attributes that he talks about that any man needs to succeed with women: self-confidence, tact, and respect for women. Keep these three things in mind and there is no reason why you should not succeed with women.
Recommended article: Experiences with a Japanese girlfriend
posted by eCreativa Media @ 11/22/2004 10:56:00 AM
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