Brad Pitt, Jennifer Aniston prepare for ugly divorce
When I first heard that Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston have separated and are getting ready for a divorce, I commented that to end such a beautiful relationship was tragic. More details are coming out including the fact that an "other woman" (Angelina Jolie) might be involved but what has disturbed me even more is the fact that there are rumors that there will be extended legal court fights. I would not be surprised if that happened because whenever another woman is the reason for a divorce, there are a lot of bitter feelings and a desire to "destroy" someone you loved.
How to separate and divorce without becoming each other's enemies?
No matter how much we all agree that divorces are bad, they are very much a part of our American fabric. As long as people will continue to believe that somehow we need to get married, there will be divorces. But when one out of two marriages in America ends up in a divorce, we need a better system to separate and divorce. (Related article: Is there an elegant way to breakup?)
We went through this sort of change in the job market. Remember not too long ago, jobs were for life and sometimes you worked for the same company that your father (or even your grandfather) worked. Today, a professional American is likely to have as many as six jobs in a lifetime. But while there is some initial bitterness when we get laid off or fired, mostly we just look for another job and move on. In fact, most people still keep their friendships at their prior place of employment and in many cases, end up doing business with them.
We need a similar attitude in our marriage. We like someone, we fall in love, get married, and if the love dies, we divorce. And then we should move on with our lives without harming the other person. In fact we should help the other person move on as well, and if possible, maintain a cordial relationship. Remember it is the same person that you fell in love with, have so many sweet memories, and planned on spending the rest of your life with!
Recommended article: Clean ways to breakup and end a relationship
How to separate and divorce without becoming each other's enemies?
No matter how much we all agree that divorces are bad, they are very much a part of our American fabric. As long as people will continue to believe that somehow we need to get married, there will be divorces. But when one out of two marriages in America ends up in a divorce, we need a better system to separate and divorce. (Related article: Is there an elegant way to breakup?)
We went through this sort of change in the job market. Remember not too long ago, jobs were for life and sometimes you worked for the same company that your father (or even your grandfather) worked. Today, a professional American is likely to have as many as six jobs in a lifetime. But while there is some initial bitterness when we get laid off or fired, mostly we just look for another job and move on. In fact, most people still keep their friendships at their prior place of employment and in many cases, end up doing business with them.
We need a similar attitude in our marriage. We like someone, we fall in love, get married, and if the love dies, we divorce. And then we should move on with our lives without harming the other person. In fact we should help the other person move on as well, and if possible, maintain a cordial relationship. Remember it is the same person that you fell in love with, have so many sweet memories, and planned on spending the rest of your life with!
Recommended article: Clean ways to breakup and end a relationship
posted by eCreativa Media @ 1/18/2005 09:08:00 PM
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