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Adultery is something we pray will never happen to us but when it does do we realize how much damage it causes? Remember it takes seconds to cause deep wounds to those you love and it can take years for them to heal. It is a painful thing to go through as it is another form of betrayal. It hurts so much because it is done by someone you have loved and respected only to be paid back in such a way makes it hard to understand as to why one should do such a thing despite the good that you did for them.
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Adultery is like electricity, it helps you every day in so many ways and fills your home with light but if there is a short-circuit or an overload, it can cause a fire without warning, burning up all valuables and memories in your home. By the time the fireman comes to put out the fire, it’s too late; the fire has damaged everything. It had to be released, it had no choice as it was overloaded, it had to be released somehow and that was the only way out. Even if the fire was eventually put out, the damage was done as most of the stuff was burnt to ashes. The electricity, though, at one time was a friend that brought light was overloaded and turned into a destructive fire! One of the reasons being that the voltage used was more than what it was designed for. (Related
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Truth, honesty and sincerity are the foundation of relationships. On these we build our lives into strong buildings but one simple act of adultery will wreck it. So before one embarks on a prodigal journey
one needs to weigh the consequences and see if they will be able to live with them.
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I recently heard of a man who had a stable girlfriend Susan. She trusted him so much that she gave him lots of space to do his work as he loved to work. The man took advantage of his freedom and began dating three other women and started taking them to his home. I don’t know how he did it but he was so good and never got caught for some time. Even the women didn’t realize he was
double-crossing them. Eventually the women began to put pressure on him as to
why he could not
commit; he realized he had to end these relationships fast because Susan would find out. The results of his actions were as follows:
- Girlfriend A was pregnant; so he arranged for an abortion.
- Girlfriend B got frustrated and broke it off.
- Girlfriend C, the youngest amongst them
went into depression and she is the one that caused damage/exposure.
Her elder sister decided to share her young sister’s plight with her colleague. “You see my sister is so
depressed after her boyfriend dumped her and she does not want to get out of bed”. The whole story unfolded. The colleague Sandra happened to be the best friend of Susan. With first hand information you can guess, yes, Susan found out the whole truth about her man. The man today spends his time drinking and smoking heavily and he is broke and depressed. Despite his pleas, Susan has
moved on and she is glad it happened before they got married. (Related:
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This is the price you pay for being unfaithful. Others are not as fortunate as Susan is; they have to go through so much pain and make major decisions.
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You see most people would say, “It feels good, so let’s do it. Why should we wait, tomorrow will sort itself
out?” What if you don’t use protection? Well, know that your tomorrow depends on the decision you make today. One wrong choice and your life is gone. It is such ‘spur of the moment’ things that cause everlasting problems because you will end up messed-up and start to say, “Oh I wish I had never set eyes on you, I should have walked away and I wouldn’t be in this mess today.” The blame game. If we could start looking ahead before we do certain things we could actually avoid certain problems in life. As the medical folks say, ‘Prevention is better than cure’.
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For instance, a teenage girl goes to boarding school leaving home for the first time. Mom says, “You take care of yourself and remember all I taught you.” She, on the other hand, says when she gets there, “Oh, Mom is just old-fashioned”. Before the term ends, she is back home expelled from school because
she is
pregnant. She was unfaithful to her mom and broke the trust. Adultery robbed her of her youth through a ‘spur of the moment’ pleasure. She has to spend her time
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