• Is a robber of peace and joy
• Destroys the foundation of a relationship
• Destabilizes the family
• Causes divorce and breakup
• Hurts the other person and children, if any
• Damages like a wild fire, which does not announce, but just burns
• Kills self esteem
• Hurts those that love you
• Changes your life forever

When you are unfaithful, your partner may never trust you in that area again. You lose everything you ever built together as it had no value the time you embarked on your journey of adultery.  (Related article:  Infidelity hurts)

Sometimes you want to come out so badly to save your marriage or relationship but you can’t because you are so involved or too deeply involved, you don’t want to hurt the other person but you are hurting your family. You get bound by your own selfish motives and struggle to come out.  (Related article:  How to respond to an affair)

That is why it’s not wise to date a person who is married or has a committed or stable relationship. Chances of that union going on is 50/50, but when a decision has to be made, one has to lose. It is at this crossroad, when one has to make a choice that pain is just inevitable. In order to save his/her relationship, the person may choose to leave you out in the cold. You are regarded as the intruder or thief. Sometimes you may win but what goes around comes around. It’s always better to get something the right way and not by stealing. You may win today but someone will do the same to you tomorrow. Such things just become a chain reaction. That is why you need to weigh and choose wisely what kind of relationship you truly want. Don’t allow someone who is not serious to take up your time. If you find out early that your partner is unfaithful, please walk away before you make any serious commitments.  (Related article:  Clues of a man cheating online)

Whether you like it or not, adultery always brings damage and its consequences are devastating. Why? Because you see a problem and don’t want to face it, so you look for an easier way out. Sometimes it is because your partner is not willing to listen or talk about the problem.  (Related article:  Risk of infidelity)

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