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How to approach Japanese women?
Be sensitive, patient, and charming
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Jack goes to university that also happens to have a
Japanese
girl, Ayumi, in his class. "She is a friend of a friend of mine. I have always thought
Japanese girls had the looks after I visited Iwaki in Fukushima, but this one she is the complete package. She comes from that city I visited. She is rich and enjoys sports like me. All her boyfriends she has had here have been Japanese but I can sense something between us, either a stronger friendship or there is
something there she cannot see. When your article said
do not pickup a Japanese woman at a public place I had an enormous
culture
scare, so I do not know what do to. I am looking to have a relationship with her. I don't think she is a
goukon ((an event where one girl and one guy bring their friends in hopes some of them hook up) person so that idea is off too! Please help!" |
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It is good that Jack has not done something stupid yet; otherwise his chances would have been over a long time ago. But here are a few things to know before he proceeds further:
- Japanese people are "shy" meaning that they are very uncomfortable in front of non-Japanese people, particularly if they think that they may not speak English well. Many also have wrong conception that other people may not find them attractive or may not want to make friends with them.
- While some Japanese tend to look down upon non-Japanese
people, most prefer to stay with Japanese people because that is what is most comfortable for them. Having a relationship with non-Japanese people (or gaijin) often presents problems and rarely has a long-term future. They may also be ridiculed by their inner circle of friends and family members for hooking up with a gaijin.
- Japanese people are full of surprises. In our six-year research into this area, we have heard from dozens of people who found that all of their
"myths about Japanese
women" were proven wrong.
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