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Women attracted to much older men
There is nothing wrong with it
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Brandy writes,
"I know that the hottest trend right now is
mature women dating younger men, but what if the age
thing is switched around? I am 21 and I have never liked
guys my own age...and now that I am an adult the
men I
seem to be attracted to are sometimes much older than
me. Well, like the guy I am sort of seeing he is 40.
Is that OK or is it too old? I guess I am confused about
what is OK and what is not; like maybe there is something
wrong with me." |
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Generally
speaking there is nothing wrong with being
attracted to older men. In fact, it was a fact of life
in the past. Older men have always married much younger
women and everything has worked out pretty well. However,
if you are attracted to them because you seek a father
figure (many girls who grew up with
single moms or have found that
men their age do not want to commit or lack
intellectual capacity to interact on an equal basis often
find that they
match better with more experienced men), then there is
something to think about - not that it is a problem as
such, but it is not a bad idea to ponder
why you
like being with people in a different age bracket. |
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 There
is another issue to deal with when you date
someone who is 20 years older. Would you like to
have children? Then a
big age gap matters not only from the
standpoint of health but also about raising
children. Like many modern women, you may
want to wait to get pregnant at 5-7 years, but by
that time, he may not be at his best age to be a
father.
In
my opinion, the best way for most people to
experience life is to be with someone within their
age bracket. That way you have common experiences.
However, what is more important is compatibility.
There are 40 year old men with the brain of a
teenager and there are 20-year olds who can
intellectually
engage a much older woman. |
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The other thing is
compatibility. If you find it with a persona of whatever
age, go for it, as was the case for Cindy. She writes, "I am
33 and my boyfriend is 59, and this is the most wonderful
relationship I have ever been in. The sex is great, the
communication
is great, and our
time spent together is wonderful. I have dated men my age and
younger and I can tell you from my experience that this man is the
best. I was married for 11 years to a man who was horrible to me
and our children and still is today but I have a new life now with
this man who knows
how to
treat women and I love it. I think women should give older men
a try." Recommended articles:
Generation gap
Right
age for marriage
Romantic
love
Find
right relationship
Story of a
woman attracted to an older man
Young women with mature men
When do older women
want younger men
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