Relationship with a Japanese man

The Kiss - Clothed or Naked will do

A woman may be on the verge of giving up on that first kiss with a Japanese man just when he finally gives it to her. I recall my anxiousness with my first Japanese boyfriend, Makoto. It seemed I waited and waited and nothing ever happened. I thought for sure after a nice dinner and movie date that I could at least expect a kiss. I honestly thought he wasn't interested enough in me or something. I couldn't have been more wrong. Patience is the key here! If you have enough patience for that first kiss, you'll await much more, and it's so worth the wait.

Makoto was driving me home after our second date when I was thinking "What is this?! Is he just simply not interested and feels obligated to be nice to me since I showed an interest in him by making the first move? Or is it just a Japanese thing?"  It was almost as if he read my mind right then, as he pulled the car over in the middle of traffic and asked if he could kiss me. I guess I was just so shocked, waiting for this moment that never came when expected, and now we hold up traffic while he makes his first move! I'll never forget it though. It wasn't just the fact that the kiss was so wonderfully delicious in every way, but since he knew how to catch me off guard. The kiss itself seemed as though he was slightly intimidated, but so sensual and soft. I believe I melted in the passenger seat!

A Higher State of Mind:  Japanese Massage - Strip time

If you've ever experienced a Japanese massage then you understand why I talk about it here. A massage may begin with all clothing still on, but be prepared to expose every vulnerable point of your physical attire. That's exactly what will be explored while being massaged simultaneously.  Japanese massage is unlike Western massage in the fact that it relies on pressure points to cure ailments, as well as to sooth mind, body and soul. Yes, this even includes a scalp and temple moment, especially if you're a kinpatsu or blonde, as this is one of their fetishes. As each pressure point is subtly yet firmly rubbed in circular motions, you will enter an almost hypnotic state of mind. After this you'll be ready and willing to do just about anything! Westerners usually accomplish such an effect by drinking too much alcohol. However, if you choose the Japanese way, you'll be fully aware of your activities, which heightens your arousal and pleasure.

Honesty + Willingness -------> Satisfaction - Naked and Vulnerable

They know what they want and they want to know what you want! As everyone knows, the Japanese have intricate, if not complicated minds. Westerners have depended on Japanese technology for decades now. We understand that they are interested in little details that will make a customer satisfied. They want to understand how things work and how to do things right from the very beginning. They love gadgets and want to know what lies behind the backboard in order to get the full understanding. This goes for everything in life, including how to please a woman. This means no more faking orgasms for women! A Japanese man couldn't possibly imagine making love without exploration. He feels a strong need to find a woman's precise erogenous zones and orgasmic features. He wants to know how her body in particular reacts and what turns her on. It is different for everyone and he understands this. He will take all the time needed to find out how to drive her wild. He expects the same in return. So, be prepared to find out what he likes. If you're uncertain, just ask him to tell you what he likes and to go through the motions as he requests.

I believe I reached a sort of enlightenment through love with a Japanese man. I reached a level of consciousness that I never had before with Western men. I found out how to make love with a full awareness of all senses in a realm beyond that I knew, finding that anything is possible.

All Senses in Use and Beyond  -  Stimulation of any kind is the keyword! Anything is possible - Taste - Oral Capacity

From my experience, Western men seem to think that making love means intercourse. You know, perhaps a little foreplay here and there, and then it's intercourse that matters. Little do these men know or care - this leads to most women never attaining orgasm. However, this is not the case with Japanese men. Japanese men take their time with foreplay, much of it being oral. They LOVE it! Perhaps enjoying it just as much as, or if not more than, intercourse. Japanese men are always ready to satisfy a woman orally. However, I do admit that they may be a bit greedy when it comes to indulging in receiving oral love at the woman's expense. It could be that they just love the feeling of a woman's mouth on their body, and therefore, not being able to contain their desire for this. If you feel their greed to be thick, just mention that you want it just as much, and you will get it. It may take a comment for them to realize the extent of their indulgence. You will be heard.

Hearing - Silent?

I once expected Japanese men to be silent during lovemaking. I also expected that they wanted a silent woman to make love to. As I mentioned before, it is extremely important for a Japanese man to hear what a woman wants from him. He is ready and willing to do whatever it is you desire. So, if you keep silent, you're only cheating yourself out of great fun. As far as panting, groaning and moaning, Japanese men love to hear it in order to know if they are doing things right. One huge turnon for me is that they have no problem telling you in Japanese how good they feel or what they want. So, if Japanese pillow talk turns you on, then hurray! Surprisingly, Japanese men yell out as they approach orgasm. 

Sight - Seeing is Believing

In lovemaking there is giving and receiving. I was used to the idea of giving more than receiving, as I am a woman. While being on the giving end, I never realized that it could be just as fulfilling for me than for him. Sight in lovemaking is important, it adds to the excitement, so you can forget about turning out all the lights.

Touch - Beyond Massage

The Japanese touch may begin with Japanese massage, but it goes way beyond that.

"Golden Finger"

A Japanese man's golden finger is just that -- Golden! As he explores your body, he uses a technique somewhere between massaging and poking around here and there. He attempts to find what makes a woman squirm and begin to beg for him to continue what he's doing. He has a knack for teasing and tantalizing a woman's body, as he secretly orders her to reach orgasm from a simple touch of his finger. He knows that he is capable of this and will not give up until she squirms, moans, yells, comes and then melts in his arms.

"Subtle Stinger"

Japanese men are very talented when it comes to hand-eye coordination. In addition, they have no problem doing two things simultaneously. I recall approaching heaven via a Japanese man's golden finger, when I felt a subtle sting on my buttocks. I was never the type for spanking, but this wasn't the same somehow. The technique was different, involving other senses. Difficult to explain, because it felt so good, and I'm still not absolutely sure how he did this. Attempting to guess, he used only his first two fingers, with a quick flick of the wrist, it made a subtle sting. In this way, it didn't have an overwhelming feeling, and to attain a subtle sting it's not like you need a whip. Somehow this really stimulated some nerve ending, making the golden finger effect even richer and more satisfying. I actually enjoyed it. (Related:  Romantic relationships in Japan)

Smell - Don't Hide under Perfume

The Japanese don't fancy strong, sweet smells that many perfumes are made up of. They prefer a fresh clean showered smell, not to mention the delicious smells of a woman getting turned on by him. That's the best aroma of all to a Japanese man. So, please, don't alter your body's natural smell with other scented things such as douche, or strong soaps and shampoos. As long as you're clean, then there are no worries, only a wonderful reason to let him explore you.

A perfect gift for your Japanese lover is a pair of your soiled panties. If he is away from you it would be his favorite momento while thinking of you -- apart from your naughty or normal pictures. Remembering how you smell is a vital detail for him.

Continued:  How to make love to a Japanese man?