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My daughter is dating a loser
How to deal with the situation?
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 Like
any mother
who has seen her children making bad choices about
dating and
marriage, Irene is worried. "I feel that they were not
meant for each other and I feel very uneasy at this. Do you
have any tips that I can use?" she writes.
If your
kids are adults, other than sitting down with them and
sharing your thoughts, there is little you can do. You can
also try to reach out to their friends and other family
members who might have more influence over them to see if
they can convince them to not date these people.
It is
important, though, that you also analyze the reasons for
your opposition to these
relationships. Is your daughter really
dating a loser or you simply do not like this man? In
the first scenario, you do have a right to be worried, but
if you don't like a guy just because he thinks
Britney Spears is a great mom, then you need to back
off.
If these
children are minor and live with you at home, you can do a
lot more to influence their behavior. You can restrict their
meetings and also sit down and talk.
You have
to be careful how you do this because even though you might
feel that it is over, it might never be over since they can
still communicate by email. They can be very
rebellious at this age and the more you try to stop them,
the more they may try to do what you don't want.
I really
hope that they will listen to your advice. Being angry or
mean is not going to help but
gaining
their trust and then letting them know that you only
mean good might help a lot more. |
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Father daughter relationship |
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