Latin view on Japanese women

A Latino view

We have been conducting a survey to develop a better understanding of Japanese women. Over the years, we have heard from hundreds of men and women. As our understanding has improved, we have incorporated the knowledge in our articles and tips on dating and relationships. From time to time we hear from someone who has a very interesting view (please remember that it is the opinion of just one person so it should not be seen as the final word) and we try to share that as it is. The opinion below is that of Eduardo, a Hispanic-American, now married to a Japanese, after spending a lot of time in Tokyo.

1. Is casual romance on the mind of a Japanese woman when she goes overseas or meets foreign men? Do Japanese women feel and behave differently in the company of non-Japanese?

From my experience with Japanese women, I have learned that those women who enjoy traveling, and going overseas, usually have pretty good English ability too. This meaning, that if they enjoy English, they are usually open minded and curious about other cultures resulting in an interest in foreign men. This same question can also be attributed to us, the foreign men. Once we have that first Asian, or Japanese experience, we can't get enough, and therefore, keep going back for more.

2. Why do Japanese women have sex with foreigners? Is it to check out how other races do it? Is it because many women think that Japanese men do not do a great job in bed? Is it because they think that all non-Japanese have big organs? Or is it just curiosity? Or is it because they can show off the gajin boyfriend as a trophy?

I think it's a little bit of both, but showing off their Gaijin boyfriend as a trophy is the most obvious one. I once dated this Japanese girl, a college student in Tokyo and she told me that when she went back to school, she announced to everyone that she had an American boyfriend and she was thrilled because all of a sudden she was popular.

3. What are their expectations from a non-Japanese man? What features they look for in a man when they want to have a relationship?

They expect the foreign man to be gentle, yet domineering enough to take control. I think most girls do enjoy the openness that most Westerners have in bed. I think Japanese men are way too shy.

4. Why do Japanese women prefer Caucasians over Asians and Africans?

Well, because for a long time this has been the image that has been given to them as the perfect foreign partner. I am a Hispanic-American (Salvadorian and Argentinean) and I was actually quite surprised to find out that Japanese women are becoming more attracted towards Latinos. There is a stereotype of Hispanics. We are viewed by Japanese women as happy-go-lucky, salsa-eating, dancing-men. All thanks to Ricky Martin!

5. There are dozens of stories that we have heard when a Japanese woman will have a steamy romance with a foreign man and then simply disappear without a word about her whereabouts. Why do they do it? Why can’t they have a proper breakup? In some cases why do Japanese women breakup but also buy expensive gifts for their lovers at the time of breakup?

Japanese women, or better said, Japanese people are programmed to avoid confrontation. They don't like saying no, or making others feel bad in front of them. I once met this Japanese friend who said she slept around with so many guys. I asked why? She said, "I am Japanese; I did not want to say no and make all the guys feel bad. " And something funny; I have also found out that Japanese women are not exactly experienced or open towards sex, but they will engage in sexual activities with men rather quickly. I have dated many Japanese women, and I can honestly say that I had sex with them by the second date with about 85% of them; the others sometimes heavy petting or a kiss on the first date.

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6. Do Japanese women have more relaxed attitudes about who to have sex with?

You have to remember that Japanese women are very fashionable and this attitude affects their way of thinking meaning they usually go for looks when it comes to sexual partners. So if your handsome or good-looking you can expect to get laid.

7. How do they feel about having sex with someone that they do not know really well? Is romance essential prior to sleeping together? Do they want it to be short and passionate so that it remains a sweet memory but then they can still move on with their lives?

Japanese women don't see SEX as a big deal. Whereas most Western women expect more after the first sexual interaction, Japanese women are OK after having a one night stand. You have to also remember that usually girls who have foreign partners will only date foreign men. They are called "YELLOW CAB" meaning girls who like having sex with foreigners.

8. Many men think that Japanese women have fewer inhibitions - they are more likely to try new things and do almost anything in the bedroom. Is it true? If so, why is that?

This is absolutely 100% true. Japanese women will try anything in bed. Japanese women like men who are sweet, gentle and at the same time make them do things that they normally won't do on their own will. And by anything I mean ANYTHING!

9. Many men claim that Japanese women are the best when it comes to oral. Why are Japanese women so good and open to oral? Why are Japanese women more likely to swallow?

Yes, Japanese women are the BEST at ORAL. Japanese women are more likely to swallow because they don't want to make the men feel bad. This goes back to saving face and avoiding confrontation. (Related: Sex with Japanese women)

10. Why do Japanese women talk so freely about private matters? Other women might be very offended when you ask them what underwear she is wearing or what kind of private life she has, unless you are really intimate with them - while Japanese women are more open minded about such questions?

Japanese women like to be sincere in their relation and they expect the same from their partner.

11. It is well known that many Japanese couple have practically no intimacy after children are born and as they get into their 40s. How do these women satisfy themselves? Young lovers? Or nothing?

I have found that many of these women use toys to satisfy themselves. I have heard that many Japanese men have ED (Erectile Dysfunction). Why? I don't know. Too much wasabi? Maybe!

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